When life gives you lemons, do you make lemonade? Or do you let it squirt in your eye and start to cry? The way you handle a crisis or react when things don’t go your way can make the difference between a bad situation that can throw you deep into depression, or one where you learn a lesson and move on. Here are five easy ways to help yourself (and maybe your keiki) be more resilient.
Get confident
The wonderful thing about confidence is that you have the power to make more of it. When you fill your confidence tank, you become more resilient. The easiest way to gain confidence is to say it to yourself and believe that you are confident. The way you think will become the way you are. Take notice when you do a good job, whether it be making a wonderful dinner, helping your children with their homework or painting a wall in your home. When you do things well, notice them and celebrate them. You will be more confident once you allow yourself to see yourself as a rock star.
Establish a goal or purpose
Finding your purpose, no matter how big or small can help you boost your resilience. When you find something that truly matters to you, you will find that you will stop at nothing or let nothing get in your way to that goal. Like a freight train you can barrel own your path, not allowing a small pebble in the road to stop you. Gain momentum and resilience from your deepest passions and goals.
Take care of yourself
If you don’t take care of yourself you leave the door open for others not to take care of you too. You must treat yourself how you want to be treated. Be your number one fan. Take care of those passions by finding time for them. Resilience will follow once you take the time to say “gosh darn it, I’m worth it.”
Change = excitement and growth
Being stuck in a rut can squash those resilience genes. So change it up! When you move on to new things, whether a job, a town or new school, you are teaching yourself how to react in different situations. It can help you gather tools to become more resilient and not freak out when things are thrown your way.
