Coping When Life Doesn’t Go According To Plan
Life will sometimes throw us a curve ball. It’s part of what we call being human. So when disappointments come our way, how can we move forward gracefully and authentically?
If plan A didn’t work out for your life, sit with it for a little while. Take the time and space to allow whatever emotions you are feeling to arise. From that place, ask yourself what expectations you had and why. The answers that come back may surprise you. Perhaps your expectations were higher than what was realistic or reasonable in that situation.
Focusing on our failures can lead us to feel lonely. The truth is that all of us face unexpected situations or a change of events sometime during our lives. Understanding that we are never truly alone in the world can help brighten our day. Talk to someone, reach out to an organization for help, make a new friend – do whatever you feel deep down inside would help you, even if it’s as small as coffee with a girlfriend.
You have probably seen in your life that when one door closes, another opens. Trust that whatever expectations you had that didn’t come to fruition, weren’t meant to be. For some reason, the universe had different plans for you. Let it go and be willing to embrace a change in direction.
We all have the power to make choices, and the choices you’ve made thus far have led you to where you are now. However, we are never in total control over all the events in our lives. Believing that we are in control of everything can lead to frustration and a sense of failure. Do yourself a favor and say goodbye to control and hello to the natural flow of life.
The one thing that we can control in life is how we react to things. If your path has been unexpectedly disrupted, take positive steps to acknowledge the event, trust that you will be okay, and accept what life brings to you. Who said life was meant to be perfect, anyway?
